Posted by PintofStout on February 20th, 2014
(Not sure what happened here. Posted from my phone and it looks normal in draft.)
(Found it! Missing quotation mark in the link tag.)
When trying to sort through the new feelings and fears of having children as a mature[ish] adult, it never occurred to me that much of that fear and pressure came from an unlikely event. First, your status has changed from someone’s kid to someone’s parent. This status change comes with a sudden sense of empathy and camaraderie with your parents that was impossible before. Second, and this comes later on as the infant grows up some, you are now revered by someone. Based on my experience with reverence, this isn’t going to end well.
Whether it’s fate, destiny, a foregone conclusion, or whatever, reverence for real things can’t end well. Reverence usually comes from an unrealistic view or opinion with little basis in the whole reality. As the whole reality is revealed, the reverence fades and sometimes swings into disgust based on the prior high opinion. My fear of my children’s future fallen high opinion of me I covered in Reflections Upon a Coffee Mug II. My other experiences with reverence were pretty much institutions. Maybe, maybe, there was reverence for government or at least parts of it. This whole site may indicate how that ended. Religion fell to the next institution (sort of) I once revered. The institution of higher education was once a beacon of purity and truth in my mind. Today I heard the marketing for a university that spoke the rhetoric of a revered institution and not the fulcrum of a giant, planet-moving lever of social engineering and money laundering juggernaut and I shook my head and started writing.
All of these once-revered things, as all non-ethereal objects of reverence must, at the very least crashed back to reality and in the case of institutions crashed and burned. Institutions never end up even in the neutral on the revere/disgust scale. As a parent who has unearned reverence thrust upon them by fate, the pressure comes in holding onto it as long as possible, and earning it eventually is the grand prize. This is both inspiring and scary as hell.